Pass the Walnut Cookies Please

Published By on December 9th, 2005 in Recipes & Mealtime

My daughter and I made Christmas cookies today. The walnut cookie recipe was something passed onto me from my Hungarian Grandmother. As we began to bake I had a realization…..

Last week we gathered as a family over the dinner table discussing our Christmas plans. This discussion was inspired by my mother-in-law, who sent us a cheque to spend on a charity of choice for Christmas.

As a new grandmother myself, I have been thinking of the values and beliefs that I held as a young mother, and passed onto my children. Now I am seeing these same values and beliefs being taught to my grandson. This has made me reflect and ask myself important questions about my beliefs and attitudes.

At the dinner table that night I asked the same questions. “Why are we celebrating Christmas since we aren’t practicing Catholics any longer”? Why decorate a Christmas tree? Why exchange presents? What traditions do we want to continue and which ones no longer fit? What does this season of celebration really mean for us as a family? What are the values and beliefs we presently hold?

I no longer feel right about putting my energy into a custom or tradition, if it does not have personal meaning. What we explored that night was our beliefs, separate and apart from what society tells us we need to believe.

As my daughter and I began to roll out the cookie dough I made a connection to the choices we have around what we pass on to our children and what we don’t. We can choose to carry beliefs and attitudes even wounds of our fore-bearers or make different choices. We can carry on some of the beliefs, attitudes or traditions, and let go of the ones that no longer fit and weigh us down.

Even though the cookies have a pound of butter and a pound of Crisco in them, I feel lighter already!

“It’s not what we do, but who we become that changes the world.”
~ Sandra Ingerman, Medicine for the Earth